Get Some Love in your Life

Now that we've gone over finances and discussed the fact that as a homeless person you should be doing something constructive with your life whether it's working at a job, starting an entrepreneurial business, practicing an art or music, developing your athletic ability, surfing, snowboarding, or developing your mind by reading, we've come to a subject that's very important in life especially if you're homeless: love and companionship. Many homeless people are lonely and have very poor relationships if any. That's part of the reason they're homeless. A lot of the joy of life comes from relationships whether friendships or romantic relationships. In fact one of the purposes of this website is to hook up homeless homies of all ethnicities.

So you can leave comments or email me, attach a picture, tell me about yourself, and I'll feature you in a post. Just because you're homeless doesn't mean that you can't find a meaningful relationship in life. In fact, since you have access to the internet (as discussed earlier), you have access to the dating websites to the same extent as everyone else does. Also bear in mind that you needn't tell anyone including a prospective date that you're homeless. Your goal should be to operate in society just the same as anyone else.

Typically, when you meet someone online, you email back and forth for awhile to get to know one another. As a homeless person, you can easily do this using the library and a web based email address such as hotmail or gmail. No problem here. You're the same as anyone else. Eventually, you'll reach the stage of talking on the phone. No problem here either since you have a cell phone (as discussed earlier.) Now comes the time when you ask someone or get asked out on a date. Here you can play it by ear whether to take public transportation or not. You can always meet someone at a public place on the first date especially if it's just to get together for coffee and chat. No car required.

Now let's say you decide to go out on a real date. If you're a female, it's still no problem to ask to be picked up in a public place. In fact it's standard operating procedure for security reasons. If you're a male, you'll either need a car or you can use public transportation. If you decide you want to go the car route, you can always rent a car for one day. Check around and you can probably get a deal for about $30. You'll need to show your license and have a credit card (as discussed earlier.) With the budget discussed earlier, you should be able to afford one or two dates a month including car rental as long as you just go to a movie or a cheap place to eat. Mexican and Chinese restaurants are usually very reasonable. You have to do your research and decide how much you want to allocate to this project if you're a male because females will expect you to pay and provide transportation. It's not fair but that's the way it is. If you're a female, you can expect a free ride for the evening. Whoever said there's no such thing as a free lunch? Well, if you're female, maybe there is....

Now if you're a male, you have to decide how many times you want to date a particular woman before you make the decision as to whether this relationship is going anywhere. Otherwise, it could eat up all your budget, and you don't want that. Once you either drop the woman or become involved, your dating strategy should change. You have to level with her in one way or another since you don't want to go on using rental cars. Hopefully, by this point the relationship should be strong enough that she'll understand. If she doesn't, it's back to the drawingboard, but persistence pays off in the long run.

Now say you level with her that you don't have a car and ask her if she'd be willing to use public transportation from now on. If she has a car and a home, there's the possibility that you could do some hanging out at her house or you could go out using her car. Nothing wrong with that! Eventually, she'll get curious as to where you live. Here's where it's good to have a cover like a friend's or relative's house where you can say you live, but you don't really live there. If your friend or relative is accommodating, you could even have her over there on occasion, but your goal would be to have all your intimate moments at her house if she has one. If she doesn't, you're both in the same boat, and you should be able to take it from there.

So if you are successful in this approach, you should be able to finesse the twin issues of homelessness and carlessness. Of course, both these situations are temporary as far as you tell her. One thing you need to be careful of is not to let her cause you to spend more money than you think you can afford. Remember, you're on a very limited budget. Women have a way of running up your bills if you're not careful. They like spontaneity - spontaneously spending your money that is. Be forewarned!

Every human being has needs for love, sex, intimacy and companionship. Homeless people are very much at risk of not getting these human needs met and of languishing unloved and feeling no one cares about them or gives a damn. The fact of the matter is that you have to take the initiative yourself to make something happen in this regard. Be persistent! You have to learn how to handle rejection. If you're rejected, you have a free pass to just go on to the next one. Remember, you have as much right as the other party to reject them as they have to reject you. Eventually, you will find someone who you hit it off with.

As far as longevity of the relationship, your circumstances aren't necessarily conducive to a long term relationship. But who knows? It might happen, and, if not, you've had an enjoyable period of time with another person, supposedly, in one way or another whether it lasts a day, a month or a year. Because of this fact alone, you should feel better about yourself. A lot of homeless people have inferiority complexes and feel that they are unlovable. The more experience you have in relationships, the more confidence you will have in yourself regardless of the longevity of the relationship.

So go out there and meet someone. Whether it's eHarmony.com, eHominy.com or match.com or any of the other dating sites, the internet is the great equalizer, and many of the sites are free. You have as much chance at meeting the love of your life as anyone else!